Parenting is an important stage in the life of every child. The role of dad influences her well-being, development, and even shapes patterns and needs in her future adult life. Unfortunately, now Ukrainian children are increasingly losing their dad because of the war. Today WomanEL invites you to consider how to properly communicate with children about the loss of their father and provide them with support.
Content Talking about deathExplaining to little onesSupport and opennessInvolvement at all stagesCreating a safe space for expressing emotionsReferring to additional resourcesMaking memories of your fatherSupporting the development of important life skills
Talk about death
Do not hide the truth and do not hesitate. Discuss the topic openly, but without detailing how it happened. It is important that this conversation is conducted by the closest person whom the child trusts. Explain that your father has died and is no longer with you.
Explanation for the little ones
Children under 5 years old They don’t understand that death is forever. It is important to use simple words and explain that the human body has ceased to live. Some also advise saying that dad has gone far away and you will no longer be able to see him.
Support and openness
Dad should be a source of tenderness, reassurance and support. It creates a safe environment and forms the basis for positive connections. After the loss of a father, it is important to show more warmth and attention to the child so that he feels protected and loved.
Involvement at all stages
From birth to adulthood, dad's involvement is important. It helps develop communication skills, motivation and social skills. After the loss of a father, other family members or close friends may take on some of these responsibilities, providing the child with the support and guidance he needs.
Creating a safe space for expression
Allow your child to express their emotions and feelings in a safe environment. Let the youngest know that crying, anger, sadness or even joy are normal reactions to the loss of a loved one.
Accessing additional resources
In some cases, professional psychological support for the child may be required. A psychologist or therapist will help you understand and express his feelings, as well as develop a strategy for working with the loss.
Creating Memory of Father
Allow your child to cherish his father's memory through photographs, stories, and shared rituals, such as visiting a grave or performing favorite family rituals. Chat with dad and tell stories from his life. Remember his struggle and kindness.
Support the development of important life skills
Help your child develop self-advocacy, problem-solving, and emotional understanding skills so they can confidently adapt to new life circumstances.
These points are aimed at supporting the child during the difficult period of losing his father. It is important to remember that every child is unique, so it is important to pay attention to their individual needs and reactions. Dad is the biggest protector and support for the baby. His role is important and he always remains in the child’s heart. Remember the importance of warmth, understanding and responsiveness when communicating with a child during such tragic situations.
By the way, we recently talked about how to maintain relationships during war.