23-year-old Ukrainian singer Kazhanna (real name – Hanna) openly shared her difficult experience of being in an abusive relationship that lasted four years. In a candid interview, she told how her love for a military boyfriend forced her to give up a theater career that could have developed after graduating from university, writes WomanEL.
It all started with the fact that I left my ex, who didn't believe in me. I was ready to give up my career, my education. I'm just an actress by education and I had a choice, and he's a military man, and I had a choice to stay with him, move to another city, or work in the theater, try to do something. And I chose him. I put all of myself into this relationship, but at a certain point I just realized that the me who was with him and the me who is, in principle, a person, Anna, Kazhanna are different people and that he only sees me as his girlfriend,
the artist said.
After moving to Vinnytsia, she began actively using TikTok, trying to find a way to express herself. Her videos became popular, but instead of support, she faced bullying from her partner.
Well, he was a student at the military department. I was 18. I created TikTok and, again, I gave up my profession, because I could really go to the theater, I could try out somewhere, do something. But no, I moved to a small town to follow him. It was Vinnytsia and I was sad, and I decided to somehow make up for it and started running TikTok, filming jokes, and when my videos first took off, they got a lot of views, then what was my surprise that he started to scold me for it, saying, what a horror it is, they just gave it away, don't be ashamed, aren't you ashamed to act like a clown in front of a large audience? Well, I don't judge myself, because I was 18 years old, my personality was literally built on the fact that I was his girlfriend, I dreamed of a family and this person knew about it, the star admitted.
In addition, her partner limited her social life, prohibiting communication with friends. According to her, this led to complete social isolation.
How Kazhanna left her abusive partner and found herself. Source: instagram.com/kazhanna_ Then he continued to tease me. I have my signature thing — my bangs are crooked, God, how many times I heard: “get a proper haircut, and do something good with yourself, my wife can't be a clown. My wife can't be a TikToker, that's all good, but you'll have to look for a job.” I was forbidden to communicate with all the people, I was forbidden to go out with my girlfriends. I realized that I was screwed here, that I was already deeply screwed here. He always manipulated: “you and I dreamed of buying a house in the Carpathians, don't you remember? Here's our song.” And when you hear these words, as such an empathetic person, and like this: “yes, yes, we've been dating for four years.” And the mother in the background somewhere: “Daughter, don't go, it's been four years, that's all,”
added Kazhanna.
However, four years in an abusive relationship became a lesson for her. The singer realized that self-love and loyalty to her dreams are the most important things. After realizing this, she was still able to break up with her ex.
Recently, Kazhanna released a funny video dedicated to youth.
